Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready.
This also doesn’t just apply to first times. It’s okay not to be ready to go any given day, even years into a relationship.
also as @gaywitchesforabortions added on another version of this post, notice that one partner read body language to gauge discomfort and stopped to check in based on that. consent can be revoked without words and actively checking for consent is super important.